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Step 3: I’m Feeling Despondent

I‘m going to tell you something many Law of Attraction authors and teachers won’t tell you: it’s OK to feel down.

You know what?

Everything is in a constant state of change, and your emotions are no exception.

Even though I strongly recommend making an active effort towards molding the mind into a positive soil of abundance, we also have to understand that it is our nature to experience “dark” days here and there.

And these down days are not actually going to block your powers of attracting great things in life.

A whole different story would be to be in a very frequent negative state.

The repetitive negative energy is sent to the Universe and in that case you are, of course, attracting results of the same nature.

But if we experience a day or two, or even a random a week from time to time, there is absolutely nothing to worry about.

The stress of “Oh my God! I’m feeling down, and I’ll be attracting terrible things if I don’t change how I feel NOW!” is a useless one and one that gives reinforcement to the negative state, thus extending it unnecessarily.

It is much more wise and loving to embrace and accept the current dark day and live through it with that attitude of acceptance than to mentally fight it with a lack of acceptance.

“As with everything, this emotional state is temporary. Its acceptance is the only medicine I need”.

That’s a statement you can remind yourself when you feel down.

At the same time, there are tools that we can use to improve our mood.

As with everything in life, we want to tap and use the tools and strategies of the things that we do have control over, and accept the things we don’t.

And one of these things is, when our emotions aren’t as positive as we wish them to be, to decide what to focus on.

Emotions come from thoughts.

If we persistently focus on something that is of a negative nature, it is obvious that it’ll be very hard for us to feel positive emotions.

On the other hand, if we recognise what is the thought that is creating the current negative emotion, and then make a conscious effort in changing that thought with other things that bring better emotions, that’ll slowly change our state.

For example, let’s say that you’re unconsciously remembering an event that brought you pain in the past.

Maybe you’re remembering a more or less recent break-up.

It is the repetitive thought of remembering that painful moment that brings negative emotions.

The same happens when you look yourself in the mirror and are unhappy with what you see.

If, for the next hour or two, you consistently focus on the thought and the things that you dislike about your physique, you can bet your sweet *ss you’ll bring up negative emotions that’ll make you feel as if you were “having a bad day”, when in fact you created the bad day with the constant stream of negative thoughts.

But what if the following situation happened?

You woke up and really disliked what you saw in the mirror.

You felt terrible, and recognised the thought pattern you were about to enter, so you asked yourself: “Out of all the things about my physique, which are my best traits?

And then, with a directed mental effort, you decided to focus on those best traits of yours for the next hours…

What if, apart from this, you asked: “Out of the things I don’t like, what daily actions could I do to change them gradually?

Let me find someone who has been in a similar position as mine, learn what she did to change it, and apply the same principles in my life.

Let me write down a 3-month plan of my new actions to achieve the physique that would make me feel very proud of myself when I looked in the mirror…

Now… that would’ve been a very positive morning, I can assure you that.

A morning packed with empowering thoughts and a renewed determination to focus on the things that we have control over.

And this happens with many things.

What we focus on is what we end up feeling.Therefore, being conscious of what we’re focusing on is what gives us the ability to recognise the source of our down moments and therefore change our thoughts towards things that bring us better feelings.

“What am I grateful for?”

That’s a question that, if we focus on the answers for 5-10 minutes will certainly change how we feel.

And if you’re feeling VERY negative and are unable to come up with answers then ask:

“What could I be grateful for?”.

Questions are powerful mood-changers, because, after a question, whether conscious or unconscious, our brain always looks for an answer.

During the whole day, our mind is a constant “talk mode”, until we go to sleep.

We’re in a continuous inner self-talk, and that self-talk is also packed with questions.

If we learn to ask the right questions, we’ll be able to create the right emotions.

As we explained in previous chapters, it is not events nor people who shape who we are and what we feel… the real source is our own interpretation and evaluation of what things mean.

The meaning we give to things will determine the thoughts we’ll have at any given time, and those thoughts will determine the emotions I feel, the decisions and actions I take (or lack of thereof), and ultimately how I become.

Does that make sense?

All this thought pattern is an evaluation we do several times a day, and our power lies in being conscious about it and directs it to our benefit.

Evaluations are nothing but questions.

And thinking is actual, at the most simple and core level, a dialogue with yourself that is composed of questions and answers.

And we do this all day, every day!

Therefore, if we want to be able to shift our negative emotions towards positive ones we should then change our questions.

Let’s say you have a car accident, and it was really not your fault.

Think about the two different meanings below, presented in the form of a question, and the type of answers and emotions they ignite:

1. I am so unlucky “Why does this happen to me?”

2. Difficulties, though painful, tend to bring a hidden blessing, even though I might not see it immediately…

“What’s the best attitude I could adopt right now?”

It is plainly obvious that one question sets the soil for a stream of negative emotions, and the other one does the complete opposite.

Both, repeated long enough, will certainly attract more results of the same nature.

People who are abundance magnets ask better questions, and therefore, get better answers, better emotions, better actions, and better results.

These answers are packed with quality, and that is the foundation of being able to use the Law of Attraction to your benefit.

Quality questions create a life of quality.

And these questions are also a direct communication with the Supreme; they are a cause and effect set in motion that has an impact that we’re unable to see instantly, and our most powerful tool to change our emotions instantly.

What’s the fastest way to change our focus?

With a new question.

When people are feeling down, it is very probable that they are engaging in a series of thoughts and questions that nurture the negative emotional state.

They’re asking disempowering questions like “Why me Lord? What’s the use? Why even try? Things seem always to go the wrong way anyway.”

“Ask and you shall receive”goes the famous quote.

Ask a nasty question and you get a nasty answer!

“Why can’t I attract the abudance I want?” – your brain will come up with an answer for that, and it’ll not be an empowering one – “because you don’t deserve it!

That’s why!”, for example.

Learn to control your focus by asking the right questions and wonderful things will happen.

Here are some powerful questions to change your focus and improve your mood:

“How did I get so lucky to have the people that love me in my life?”

“What do I love the most about my husband/mother/son/friend?”

“What is great about my life that I’ve never noticed?”

“How much richer will my life be if I learn to use the power of focus through power questions?”

“What am I grateful for in my life?”

“What am I most happy about my life right now?”

“Who do I love? Who loves me?”

And in the event you find it hard to change your emotions on a down day, don’t worry at all.

Don’t get stressed because of it.

Learn to embrace the fact that that day will be like that, and that it’s OK with you.

Tomorrow will be a new day and a better one.

 

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